I have had 25 years of life lessons, some easy and some not-so-easy. Not one of those lessons compare to what I have learned from being a Mommy. So, I decided to make a list. Mind you, I fully realize that I am young, and have only been a mother for roughly two years, so I realize there is A LOT (ok, ok TONS) left to learn, this is just a few lessons I have picked up a long the way in my short journey. If you want to hear some real life lessons, ask someone who has raised four or five kids, not a mother of one.
What I have picked up a long the way:
1. Nothing is ever perfect, in fact the fun is in the imperfections.
2. A messy face is WAY cuter that a clean one.
3. I have never felt so protective of anything or anyone until I met my daughter. When it comes to her, I cannot be held responsible for what I say and do.
4. Spray and wash is my best friend.
5. There are always more crumbs, everywhere.
6. Every age is the “best” age.
7. Being a good mom is the hardest job in the world, much harder than reigning in 22 five year olds.
8. There is no better feeling in the world than when your sleeping child is on your shoulder.
9. Nobody has all the answers. Nobody is the perfect parent. Chances are, what worked for someone else’s child will NOT work for yours.
10. A perfectly clean house with a toddler inside is an impossibility.
11. When I heard Aubrey Ann cry for the first time, something woke up in my heart.
12. My daughter makes me think so much harder about the woman that I am, and the woman I want to be.
13. I will never be the mother my daughter deserves, but that sure doesn’t stop me from trying.
14. I will never be able to watch the news, read the newspaper, or see a homeless person without thinking, “that is someone’s baby”.
15. I have never felt more fulfilled than when I became Aubrey Ann’s Mommy.
16. Some of the things that use to be so important to me seem so silly now. I could really care less about the size of my thighs, or whether or not my hair and make-up are perfect, I am much more concerned with how I look on the inside, and how that shapes my daughter.
17. I love my husband even more now that I watch him be a Daddy to our daughter. He is truly amazing.
18. When your child is sick or hurting, you gain the supernatural ability to stay up all night, being vomited on, and never once think about how you missed sleep, or need a shower. When your child is sick, that is all that matters.
19. The days are long, but the years are short.
20. On tough days, I often think of this quote “No one said it would be easy, they said it would be worth it.” and I now know it is so true.
As the days turn into weeks, the weeks to months, and the months into years, I often remind myself of this quote, and it helps me to remember to live in the moment, and to steal all the kisses I can:
Excerpt from Anna Quindlen’s All My Babies are Gone Now: “…But the biggest mistake I made is the one that most of us make while doing this. I did not live in the moment enough. This is particularly clear now that the moment is gone, captured only in photographs. There is one picture of the three of them, sitting in the grass on a quilt in the shadow of the swing set on a summer day, ages 6, 4 and 1. And I wish I could remember what we ate, and what we talked about, and how they sounded, and how they looked when they slept that night. I wish I had not been in such a hurry to get on to the next thing: dinner, bath, book, bed. I wish I had treasured the doing a little more and the getting it done a little less.”
God, help me to savor every moment. These years fly by, and soon my baby will be all grown up. Thank you for the precious gift of my daughter.